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Post by slough on Mar 26, 2024 6:26:15 GMT -5
If your not happy with her now, later is gona be worse. Have a long talk. If it's the weight, if she's committed, she will work on it. If it's a lot of little things, get them out now. You'll both be better in the long run which ever way it goes.
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Post by madm002 on Mar 26, 2024 7:13:46 GMT -5
TRT I think inside you are really good guy and maybe still mourning the loss of your wife.
We are the same age, and I have seen, unfortunately, a number of folks go through your situation, including both my mother and MIL. Mom chose never to get married, she was burned out after caring for Dad for 8 years (sound familiar?) My MIL decided she just wanted to die.
One guy got married after less than a year. Some never did. When its right you will know it.
I understand that she wants to lock it in and seal the deal, but in my humble opinion, you do not seem ready for that. And the fact she is pushing you then bothers you.
When you are ready and want a real relationship, the looks thing might fade a little bit in importance because it is about the relationship, because you will want to be with that person for the rest of the 4rth quarter. Meanwhile you do you and keep moving forward.
Praying for you man.
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Post by cadman on Mar 26, 2024 8:13:07 GMT -5
If you can't accept her as is, don't try to change her or make her change. Then you both will be unhappy.
If you love her, then nothing else matters, if you don't then nothing else matters.
That is all that matters.
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Post by ferris1248 on Mar 26, 2024 8:31:16 GMT -5
Damn! I feel like I just read the Dear Abby column.
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Post by TRTerror on Mar 26, 2024 8:38:09 GMT -5
I Don't Love her... I care about her and her feelings but no love..not yet anyways. It's not so much about this Commitment thing as I can just stand there and nod my head and say , sure thing , whatever you want . If she was Hot I'd jump on it but she's a Plain Jane. That ain't my style. Hard to be Proud to introduce her to folks when I'm not Proud of her myself. I told her she has to lose weight while she ate carrot cake and licked the plate and she comes back with I ate a Salad for lunch..WTH. She can't marry me anyways cause she loses benefits if she does so now she just wants a small ceremony and pictures taken...I want to go fishing...Damm women
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Post by tampaspicer on Mar 26, 2024 9:16:02 GMT -5
Does she like women too? Maybe see if she can find ya'll a thinner chic to join in on the bedroom festivities you'd be more pleased with the situation.
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Post by whitebacon on Mar 26, 2024 9:20:15 GMT -5
I Don't Love her... I care about her and her feelings but no love..not yet anyways. It's not so much about this Commitment thing as I can just stand there and nod my head and say , sure thing , whatever you want . If she was Hot I'd jump on it but she's a Plain Jane. That ain't my style. Hard to be Proud to introduce her to folks when I'm not Proud of her myself. I told her she has to lose weight while she ate carrot cake and licked the plate and she comes back with I ate a Salad for lunch..WTH. She can't marry me anyways cause she loses benefits if she does so now she just wants a small ceremony and pictures taken...I want to go fishing...Damm women I've told you this before. Move down here. The women, girls, don't care how you look. They care if you have money. Not a lot, mInd you. But enough. The fishing is ridiculous. The weather is fantastic. Women stand in line to talk to you. Shorts, teeshirts, and flipflops. That's it. I can put you on bonefish, tarpon, and permit, without getting in a boat. To repeat, the women here will literally throw themselves at you. No, they aren't sincere, but they will knock themselves out to convince you they are.
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Post by tampaspicer on Mar 26, 2024 9:26:53 GMT -5
Don't forget the getting robbed part Bacon
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Post by olmucky on Mar 26, 2024 9:35:52 GMT -5
I sense that beneath the tough shell you have you are a soft hearted person inside. It’s tough to let someone down easily if you decide to move on. Perhaps you just have to tell her that you like her but you need a little time. Create a space between her and you for a while so you can get your mind around it. Good luck sir. I remember the feelings. When I settled down with my Mrs I had to let another go that was really nice. It was hard to do for sure. Good post
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Post by whitebacon on Mar 26, 2024 9:53:11 GMT -5
Don't forget the getting robbed part Bacon Damn right. Thanks for the reminder. I actually found a couple that don't rob. Doesn't mean I don't have to pay them. They just ask nicely.
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Post by gardawg on Mar 26, 2024 10:17:19 GMT -5
Damn! I feel like I just read the Dear Abby column.
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Post by ferris1248 on Mar 26, 2024 10:30:08 GMT -5
First time I've heard that. John Prine was a genius. Thanks.
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